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Anonymous Female:

I'm 21 -
I went to a local pub last week, but it's one I've never been in before, having had a few drinks beforehand, I got chatting a bit to the barman. Bear in mind I'm happy in a relationship I've been in for the last 4 years, I love my boyfriend an awful lot, and this is the first time anything of this sort's ever happened. Anyway, back to the story - I got chatting to this barman who was lovely, good looking, charming, just a general pleasure to be around. He served the group of people I was with all night and at one point I stole his hat off his head to wear it myself (I have a habit of doing this when drunk!) so he came round the bar, laughing, to get it back. I got my picture taken with him blah blah and eventually we all headed home, leaving the barman to his job.. For some reason, I can't seem to get him out of my head, and there's no-one I can talk to about him. I feel like how I did when I first met my boyfriend all them years ago as far as he's concerned. I don't even know the guys name.

What I do know, however, is that he was gay. :( I've never felt so crushed.

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 Anonymous About 5 months ago  
I'm presuming your boyfriend wasn't there with you? Maybe you just missed him and were automatically drawn to that guy because they shared similiar qualities? It sounds innocent enough to me anyways, maybe you need to focus on having friend company as well as the company you get from being in a relationship.

 Anonymous About 5 months ago  
you must be reaally fun to get in an argument in real life don't you. if you don't even care about context or logic, thinking you're right and fuck everyone else, why should i listen to them? and no it's NOT ok to flert with a fag at some bar and still keep thinking about him a month later when you have a boyfriend! if you're so dissapointed about him being gay, don't tell me there was absolutely no sexual feelings whatsoever, you're just lying to yourself. i'm not american by the way

 Anonymous About 5 months ago  
wow, you expect everyone to be nice to you, and think you're always right, you came here expecting people to tell you it's ok and reinforce the way you think?? bitch please!

 Anonymous About 5 months ago  
I'm American and I think you're fine. I think the bartender has all these good things that your mind ties in with him. (You were feeling good, having a good time with your friends, he was friendly and probably cute) He has the mystery about him. That's what is hard to get over. Anytime you are in a relationship, it's everyone else that will have that mystery appeal, not your boyfriend. If you were to follow your curiosity I'm pretty sure you would find the mystery in the bartender would fade and you would be missing your boyfriend. Don't feel guilty for feeling crushed it is very

 Anonymous About 5 months ago  
Sweetie, I'm American. I know what it's like to find someone attractive and be in a great relationship. If were still thinking of the bartender (regardless of sexual orientation), you need to look at your relationship and think what's fair not only to your bf but to you.

Not so stupid, us Americans.

 Anti-Philosopher About 6 months ago  
seriously, you complained to AFB for this SHIT ARSE confession? PLEASE, other people have a lot bigger things to worry about and confessions to make. grow the hell up.
'Not. Fucking. Happy.'

 Anonymous About 6 months ago  
he did his job.

 Albertus :) About 6 months ago  
wow wtf. You complained to AFB, AFB responded, and all for this shit? seriously. Not worth the time

 Anziehend About 6 months ago  
...Reading these comments, you just seem to be really immature, ungrateful, argumentative, and to be perfectly honest, a total dumbass.
Try focusing on the real world instead of checking this page every two hours to see who else you can bitch at for disagreeing with you.

 cinnamon zombie About 6 months ago  
get a life, little lady. trust me, it'll do you good in the long run not to fall in love with fags.
and believe it or not, quite a few people give a flying fuck about context.
honestly, to me, you just seem like a really stupid and spoiled 20 year old that doesn't recognize something good when she sees it.
you also seem pretty damn stupid because for some reason you felt the need to antagonize me for my little three word sentence.
anyways, i'm done having this argument with you. i can see your ego is too big to make room for suggestion.

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
cinnamon zombie About 2 hours ago  
@philosopher
do you even know what inbred means? because that definitely was not the right context. >.>


Hahahaha - nah, I don't know what inbred means -_-
i'm really not a retard, I know exactly what it means, and who gives a flying fuck about context when you're insulting someone? Do tenses matter too? I bet you're fun to get into an argument with in person huh?!

 cinnamon zombie About 6 months ago  
@philosopher
do you even know what inbred means? because that definitely was not the right context. >.>

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
cinnamon zombie yesterday  
jesus, you're stupid.


Jesus, you're inbred.

 Anonymous About 6 months ago  
Lovely, goodlooking, charming men are all gay

 cinnamon zombie About 6 months ago  
jesus, you're stupid.

 Anonymous About 6 months ago  
Lots of regional elitism and even more stupidity, lovely site.

Its lust, a small high of endorphins and enkeaphlins that don\'t amount to a hill of beans compared to the time you have spent with your guy. Its not a sign of whorishness or anything else, its our natural state. Anyone on here telling you otherwise doesn\'t get fucked often, let alone by someone regularly.

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
Well you know what, thanks for \'welcoming\' me onto your fucking \'oh so open\' confessions site - I don\'t think I\'ll fucking bother again/
and as for resorting to nationality jibes, I (if you read a bit more carefully) ONLY commented on people that were being so negative in their comments on here. Saying that they had changed my opinion (for the worst) from how I previously thaught. So fuck you.

I don\'t need to justify myself anyway. You act like pricks, you get branded pricks.

Now, where\'s that bandwagon got to?

 Rofl About 6 months ago  
Holy Fucking Shit Balls Batman! Longest hate conga line for a confession ever!

 Stza About 6 months ago  
Don't bother with this person. It's embarrassing she resorted to nationality to justify her insults. You slipped and tried to cover it up but too late, we know you're not giving ur boyfriend 100% of yourself. It's amazing how much ignorant people will defend themselves when clearly they themselves know they're wrong

 Bacon&Eggs About 6 months ago  
Wtf? Not all of us Americans are ignorant.
Stfu! It's only the dumbass people who think nationality indicates whether a person should be higher than the other person on the "ladder" err whatever.
Dumbass.
I'm only 16, and I get this shit.

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
....... My issues lie in the fact that he's still on my mind a week down the line. Mabye it's just a case of I was TOO drunk, or feeling TOO friendly at the time. Like I say, I wasn't horny in the slightest, and the feelings weren't sexual at all, it was more like a platonic appreciation. Odd. :S

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
Awh, you're lovely :) it's a pity more people on here aren't like you.
As far as I'm aware, my bloke has been 100% devoted to me - BUT there's quite a substantial age gap between us, so I think he's definatley got the good end of the stick as far as bragging rights. That's not to say I'm not lucky either, he's a great guy and he'll generally do anything for anyone.
(and before people jump to more conclusions, I'm not 'kept' I work hard and pay evenly)
As I say, even if the barman was straight, and had come onto me, I wouldn't have acted upon such a petty thing anyway .......

 Anonymous About 6 months ago  
Although if you could get me that barmans number, he sounds pretty tasty :P

 Anonymous About 6 months ago  
If you have feelings for another person, then your heart isn\'t entirely in your current relationship... Not fair for your partner at all, who, as far as we know, IS committed 100%.

This is where the question of personal ethics comes in, I, personally, felt compelled to tell my boyfriend, even though he got upset. I realized how childish I had been, thinking so much of a drunk-crush, for christ\'s sake, he was straight... After I had some time to think I re-dedicated to my boyfriend and we were together another 4 months before he told me that he was leaving me for a woman...

...

 Anonymous About 6 months ago  
I'm sorry to say it hun, but that isn't normal... I'm not saying that you're going to cheat on your bf, or that you're a slut/whore/bitch/cunt/any of these other degrading terms, just spreading a word of caution from somebody who had the same thing happen to them... We were together for 3 and a half years, i went out and got smashed, 'clicked' with another guy at the bar, but he was straight (not even a little curious :() and when my boyfriend at the time found out, he was LIVID...

...

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
Erm.. You may have missed the point entirely - he was gay, and the last time I looked I didn't have a cock. And as I said, I'd not have done something even if he was straight, that contributed to the miffed-ness.

 Anonymous About 6 months ago  
what a dumb ass you should've fucked him and blamed it on the alcohol

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
... Seeing it from the guys point of view. Don't forget, I'm guessing you also are an American, wheras in the UK, I'll quite happily admit that the justice system is fucked. A girl goes drinking, in a stupidly short skirt, a virtually none existant top and not a great deal else, to me, she wants attention. She goes out to a club, gets absolutley wankered and 'pulls'. She sleeps with the guy, wakes up the next morning, regrets what she's done, and cries rape. The guy gets arrested and says goodbye to his life for 3 years. NOW tell me I'm wrong?

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
How exactly am I a bitch?

from another confession:

-Philosopher-


Yeah. And if my 13 year old sister ever came out with a statement like that i\'d kill her with my bare hands.
What a way to get a guy in shit.
I hope you get raped, and it\'s the most awful experience of your life.

GROW UP.

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pretty conclusive, id say. not that bright, either.


Well if my kid sister did ever come home age 13 and said she hopes she gets raped, I'd be pissed off - an awful lot. As I'm sure you would, if you were actually over 13 yourself. I was just

 -Philosopher- About 6 months ago  
Well congratulations folks - you've succeed in changing my opinion of spoilt middle class American kids forever. You're all pricks, and if you lot are destined to be the next world leaders, then we're all fucked. If I'm a 'slut' and a 'whore' for complaining, then you lot SERIOUSLY need to consider investing in a dictionary, or at least using an online one? And how exactly I'm a 'pre whore' when in 4 years I've never cheated on my boyfriend, or thaught about it, and I never will I don't know. Don't tar me with the same brush as those who HAVE cheated on here.

 Anonymous About 6 months ago  
hey all girls have this feeeling maybe ask your self if you really love either one...pepl are so rude on here. ignore them completely

 Anonymous About 7 months ago  
oh and to any sound yanks, n there are a few, no offence

 Anonymous About 7 months ago  
i wish i was an american. then i could be ignorant, stupid, loud, annoying and hated by everyone in the world while thinking i'm hilarious and original at the same time. guess i'll just have to make do with bein from somewhere good.

 DICK About 7 months ago  
Holy Fuck. I?m not getting in a cool sophisticated argument I?ll ma ke my point this way. Fuck the UK. Fuck you arguing retards. Smd, and have a jolly day. :]

 Anonymous About 7 months ago  
If she hadn\\\'t complained about not getting her thing posted you wouldn\\\'t be calling her \\\'whore\\\' and \\\'bitch\\\' etc..

I think you are totally normal, I wouldn\\\'t worry about it. Shame he\\\'s a homo tho.

 Bacon&Eggs About 7 months ago  
For the people below, take it off AFB... comments aren't for your immature needs.
For the person who wrote the confession, that's normal. Maybe... o_o I love my boyfriend A LOOOOOOT, but I've never done that.
Maybe you're on the verge of cheating? o_O

 Chris About 7 months ago  
Hello miss whiny bitch #2;D

 Ely About 7 months ago  
Slut

 Anonymous About 7 months ago  
How exactly am I a bitch?

from another confession:

-Philosopher-


Yeah. And if my 13 year old sister ever came out with a statement like that i\'d kill her with my bare hands.
What a way to get a guy in shit.
I hope you get raped, and it\'s the most awful experience of your life.

GROW UP.

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pretty conclusive, id say. not that bright, either.


 Anonymous About 7 months ago  
hey whore. if the roles were reversed wnd your BF went to the bar and flirted with the waitress, and said he was crushed whenhe found out she was unattainable, and could not stop thinking about her. you wouldbe pissed. so go fuck yourself

 mint About 7 months ago  
Just stop confessing if you can'T live with comments like this.
Gosh, you just don't get afb.

 Anonymous About 7 months ago  
Are u that ignorant or just plain stupid?"Can't one person like more than one person at a time?" listen to what you said? Nothin wrong with like multiple people but it becomes wrong when you have a boy friend? If you don't think its so wrong then wh don't you tell him that you clicked with a bartender. Why would you be disappointed that he was gay then?? Sure as hell can't be because you just wanted to be friends with the guy. I never called you a slut you just have the symptoms of one.

 -Philosopher- About 7 months ago  
Erm.. Excuse me?!! You know fuck all about me, I would NEVER cheat on my boyfriend. I was merely commenting on the fact that the one person I clicked with happened to be gay? I'm 21 years old now, and over here, that's nearing retirement age from going out to parties etc. So don't judge a book by it's cover eh?!

 DapperCat About 7 months ago  
Sure! Whores like lots of people at a time. You're just starting on your way, so don't worry, this is just your first time. Sure you only got drunk enough to just act like a annoying brat and think you "clicked" with a fag, but don't worry, in a few more years you'll be blowing off strangers at parties with no concern whatsoever for your boyfriend and/or husband at home.

Helpful tip for your future: Having many different kids with many different fathers can sure make Father's day a bitch. Try naming them after their respective fathers for easy identification ie. Sancho Jr, Leroy II

 -Philosopher- About 7 months ago  
Hm. Pre whoreishness? Well, I'm not sure how things are done over there in the States, but here in the UK, people can have feelings for other people without them being a slut. And who said the feelings I had for this guy were sexual? Sorry to pop your little self righteous bubble, but they weren't, we just clicked, exactly how me and my fella did 4 years ago. Oh, and I've never had a one night stand in my life - just for the record. Can't one person like more than one person at a time?

 Anonymous About 7 months ago  
First off u sound like every other drunk bitch at a bar, the type you hit and quit. Secondly bar tenders are supposed to be nice to everyone that\'s like saying \"the stripper touched my leg and I can\'t get her out of my head now\". And third what the fuck do you mean \"I\'ve never felt so crushed\"?!? Bitch u have a boyfriend! You have all the symptoms of pre-whoreishness. Ur not happy with ur bf then break it off.

 -Philosopher- About 7 months ago  
I figured they just hadn't uploaded it because it was indecent - after waiting 2 days. My initial frustration was with the fact that they quite happily allow blatant paedos to post, yet a genuine one is indecent. Anyway, problem's solved now.

 mint About 7 months ago  
NEVER. EVER. EVER. E.V.E.R blame Afb for not uploading your secrets. It'll be your last blameon.

 -Philosopher- About 7 months ago  
How exactly am I a bitch?

 CoolDog About 7 months ago  
Good call, Anonymous

 Anonymous About 7 months ago  
You're a bitch

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